CHIVALRY 101. 20 TIPS TO HELP BROTHERS SCORE WITH THE SISTERS

CHIVALRY 101. Tips to help brothers with their game.

We all have that one friend who doesnt have money, doesnt look that cool and frankly doesnt measure up to us but he always seems to score with the hotties around who cant seem to get enough of him. Well, brothers, you need more than a good job, good bank balances and good English to score with the sisters. Here are some few tips on chivalry which will help you. All views are originally mine with a little help from @yadoma.
 
1. Walking rules. On the road, stay on the side of traffic. Crossing the road or down a staircase, hold her hand and go first. Into an event, walk behind her.
2. When it looks like she's enjoying her conversation with her friend, thats not a good time to start yours. Let her be. Telling her she's being ridiculous is the worst way to stop her from being ridiculous.
3. With outstretched hands, "Hello, my name is Tom, whats yours" remains the best pick up line for ladies anyday. A little creative variation wont hurt but you must have the charm to pull it off.
4. Be confident but not cocky, assured but not proud, ooze class without coming off as trying to impress. If you give yourself compliment, you've lost the plot.
5. Ask direct questions while maintaining eye-contact but dont ask personal questions if you're just getting to meet her.
6. If you take her to Chopsticks on the first date, be sure you can sustain it and that YOU eat there.
7. Your salary, net-worth, people you know, the number of cars you own, your parents' pedigree and your favourite holiday destination are not first date topics.
8. Kindly dont whine about your Ex! Thank you.
9. Women like it when you trust them to drive your car. Especially the expensive one. Opening and holding a door for them works any day and for all ages.
10. If she stays late at your place and she has to go home, as much as you can, drive her home. Even if she came in her own car, drive behind her to her house.
11. After an evening out, walk her to her door, give her a hug, peck her on the cheek, tell her you had a nice time and ask if you can see her again. Dont go for the kiss. In Nigeria, it doesnt work. She doesnt know you that well yet.
12. Even if she's always available whenever you call her, make it a point of duty to always ASK if you can see her. Never ORDER her to come and see you.
13. If she's not the ONE, please dont take her to see your Mama. If you do, she'll think she's the ONE and start acting the part.
14. You dont always have to call. Believe me, she has a life and sometimes, your call is a distraction and she's only being nice by answering you. Alternative? Send a sweet SMS. Dont Ping her. It will require a back and forth which is even worse than calling her.If something just amused you at work, text it to her. She'll know you're thinking of her even at work.
15. Women love a man in a suit anyday.
16. Its okay for her to be your shrink but dont make complaints and whining a habit.
17. "Where are you" should not always be in the top 3 sentences of your calls. Sometimes, its really non of your business.
18. Know her favourite songs and let her know yours. Better still, have a joint favourite song... 10 years later, whenever she hears that song, she'll remember you.
19. Share a joint passion. Be it for professional, recreational or academic issues. It helps with the conversation.
20. And lastly, the old reliable; Buy her gifts. You musn't break bank. The Igbos call it 'packaging'. Its the thought and not the price that matters. You could buy her N500 earings and she'll rock them with more spunk and swag than the Swarovski heirloom her mama handed down to her.
These are tested and trusted chivalry tips. When i reach my 10th Wedding Anniversary shortly, i'll give marriage tips.

Happy New Year.

S.H.